One of my specialties in my 1:1 Soul Medicine Healing sessions is helping woman heal their relationship with their menstrual cycle. When embraced the menstrual cycle allows a woman to flow with ease with her true nature and the evolutionary force of life itself. She becomes a master of her creative energy and a powerful visionary, empowered to use her womb space to bring her deepest desires and longings to life. When a woman is aligned with her womb she comes into communion with life and her true soul path.
In contrast when a woman resists, judges, represses, controls, rejects or is ashamed of her menstrual cycle she falls out of harmony with her true nature. It will affect all aspects of her life, throwing her off balance, disconnecting her from the wisdom of her womb consciousness and taking away her powerful ability to align with the energy of creation.
Isn’t it interesting that at a time on the planet where so many woman have a dysfunctional relationship with their cycle and judge it as “the curse” that we are also at a time where humanity has become so disconnected from nature that we are bringing our species to the brink of extinction?
I truly believe in order for our species to survive we must re-connect with our true nature. For woman part of that evolutionary journey means healing the relationship that they have with their menstrual cycle by learning how to flow with their cycler nature and remembering its magic, rather than resisting and fighting it!
How can you heal the relationship you have with your menstrual cycle?
Thankfully nature is always seeking balance; there is always a potential for healing and reclaiming wholeness. The first steps in the healing journey is going right back to the seed moment where it all began….
Your first period.
Did you know that your first period and how it was processed emotionally, mentally, physically and socially sets the seed foundation for your life-long relationship with your menstrual cycle?
Also the beliefs your own mother and grandmother (and lineage before them) have about their own cycles directly affects your own. This is why ancient cultures would celebrate a girls first period with a ritual and ceremony and teach her about the blood mysteries. They would pass down the womb wisdom to each generation as a rite of passage.
When I am working with my clients we will always go back to the seed moment of their first period and discuss their experiences. I ask them a series of questions which allows them to start connecting the dots on why they have certain beliefs & feelings about their cycle. This reflection brings awareness to the surface revealing the limiting belief systems, emotions, pain, shame and any trauma related to their cycle they may be carrying. With a fresh perspective and an intention of healing this sets the transformation in progress.
Feel free to grab your journal and do your own reflecting about your own cycle with the prompting questions below.
- Do you remember when you first got your period?
- What (if anything) had you been told about about periods before you got your own? What did they say to prepare you?
- How old were you when you first bled?
- Did you get your period before or after the majority of your peers?
- Where were you when you first discovered you were bleeding and what happened?
- How did the woman in your family respond? What did they say to you?
- How did the males respond? Did they say anything to you about it? Did they even know, or was it kept secret from them?
- Did you tell your friends and/or siblings, or keep it a secret?
- How did you feel about getting your period? Proud, ashamed, afraid, in-different?
- How do you feel about your period now? Is it the same as it was back then?
- Has anything else happened to you over your life that impacted the relationship you have with your period and caused you to judge it negatively? (ie. Bad PMS, cramps, womb related issues, trouble conceiving, traumatic labour, problems with your pelvic floor, an unwanted pregnancy or abortion, eating disorder or other health or emotional issues, etc)
- Are you on the pill, how long have you been on it for?
- Do you judge your period, curse and complain about it? (hint: the womb is always listening!!)
I would encourage you while you are writing your answers to have your other hand placed gently over your womb to help connect to the cellular memories and imprints that she is holding.
I got my period when I was around 14. I was staying at my grandmother’s house and my parents were away. I had no pain, but went to the bathroom and saw the blood in my underwear. When I discovered I was bleeding I went and told my Grandmother and she gave me an pad to use and also a can of “femme fresh spray”. Much to my horror she explained when you bleed you can sometimes become “smelly” and therefore you needed the spray to cover it up. She was very matter of fact, non-emotional and kept the interaction very brief. The pad she gave me was enormous and I remember feeling so uncomfortable with it wedged in my underwear. As for the spray? It smelt like nasty talcum powder and there was no way I was using it.
When Mum returned she was fairly in-different about me getting my period and explained it was natural part of being a woman. She asked me if I was in pain, and I answered no. She went on to warn me that sometimes they could be painful (as she suffered bad cramps herself) and let me know I could take painkillers to help with the pain if that was the case for me.
At the time I was in Year 8 and went to an all-girls school and periods had a lot of stigma around them. If any of the girls happened to get blood on the back of their dresses they were publicly humiliated and the subject of teasing and nasty gossip. I remember being terrified of getting blood on my dress and I would hide taking my pads and tampons out of my bag as I was so anxious that the other girls would see. One day I did get blood on the back of my dress and had a horrendous experience as I walked in front of a group of my peers on the way to a classroom and the bitchy girl in the year level yelled out “Look everyone, Sara’s bleeding”, I felt mortified and it really scarred me.
Based on my first experiences and what I picked up on collectively my seed foundation around my own cycle was that periods were something to be ashamed of, dirty, needed to be hidden and repressed.
Its then no surprise that moving forward I suffered very painful periods. I went to the doctor when I was about 16 to get support for my painful periods and was prescribed to go onto the pill within five minutes. I remember going out and telling my Mum in the waiting room and she said “you realise that the pill is also a contraceptive?”. Well no, the doctor hadn’t even bothered to mention that, the only reason for prescribing it was to help ease the cramps.
The pill didn’t ease the cramps at all; I still got the pain and also started getting migraines. Upon reflection I actually think the manipulative energy of the pill (which tricks the body into thinking its pregnant, permanently!) really affected me psychologically and disconnected me even further from my natural cycle. Rather than dealing with the cause of the imbalances and listening to the messages the pain was giving me, I just tried to ignore them and push through painkillers and just accepting I would “always” have painful periods.
A year or so after being on the pill was when I became bulimic and I recognise now that trying to control my natural cycle really played a part in an on-going dysfunctional relationship with my feminine nature. After working with hundreds of woman I know I am not alone in my journey and experience.
I continued that way for YEARS. I used to always have to take a day off work for the first day of my period, otherwise I would end up hunched over UNDER my desk in the foetal position in horrendous pain. It wasn’t uncommon for me to be so nauseas I would vomit on the first day of my cycle or be wailing in pain. The binge/purge/control mode of my bulimia would always flare up just before I got my period. It was only when I started to reconnect with my true feminine nature through meditation and reiki in my mid-twenties that I decided to go off the pill and I noticed the start of a shift in my symptoms.
As I continued on my journey of self-exploration and spiritual growth I changed the relationship I had with pain and started to view it more as a messenger, rather than a punisher and so the journey of re-connecting with my body and womb’s wisdom began. I started working with a Chinese Doctor who supported me with herbs and regular acupuncture to helped me deal with the root cause of why I had bad periods, rather than repress the symptoms or even worse, accept that I was just “cursed” and had to live with it every month.
Slowly, but surely the crippling pain started to ease and everything changed. I am delighted to say that for the last two years I rarely get ANY pain with my periods and I actually look forward to bleeding time as I know it’s a time of releasing, reflection and enhanced intuition and psychic ability.
Did you know that every month you go through a creation cycle?
Much like the seasons of the year, each part of the cycle has specific gifts and attributes that when embraced hold keys for wholeness and fulfillment. The female body and what it is capable of is miraculous and magical. I will write more about this moving forward and this embodied feminine wisdom is what I share at my 1-day initiation journey for woman Creation and teach woman about in in my 1:1 sessions.
I get my clients to reflect on the above questions and then I take them into their womb’s through a guided embodiment practice to heal the old wounds, clear old belief systems and ancestral karma using the healing power of their own womb space (because yes, your womb IS that powerful!). Last year I turned that very embodiment process into a Womb Blessing Ritual that you can purchase from my online shop.
The Womb Blessing Ritual is at “at-home” practice that is the same healing process I have used with hundreds of woman to activate their womb’s consciousness and re-set their relationship with their menstrual cycle. Since releasing it last year I have received so many messages and emails from woman who have been amazed at how its directly affected their menstrual cycle and activated their relationship with their inner feminine. They have all reported significant shifts in period pain, PMS symptoms and positive flow on effects around libido, creativity, intuition and overall energy levels. It’s also THE ritual for amplifying fertility and I have had countless clients fall pregnant shortly after using it.
I truly believe its time for the woman’s menstrual cycle to come out of the shadows of repression and be reclaimed as the gift it is. Its time to stop being ashamed or disgusted by what is not only very natural but is actually miraculous part of life. A lot of woman naively think “Well if I don’t want to have a baby (or I am done having babies) then why do I have to have a period?” Having a baby is ONE of the miracles of the womb space, but honestly that is only just scratching the surface of the womb’s potential. The feminine cycle is the creation cycle of life and when a woman claims her own cycle, she is given the keys of creation. The power that can be claimed when a woman embraces her cycle will help to birth a new-world.
Aren’t you curious about embracing your own womb magic? Do you work with your cycle in an empowered way? Or have you used my Womb Blessing Ritual and wish to share your experiences? I would love to hear you from you in the comments below