Unfortunately I often hear this question being asked in its variations or witness conversations in “spiritual” circles of people complaining about having to deal with another human being that isn’t fitting into their ideal of “spiritual perfection”. Words like this person isn’t “spiritual”, “evolved”, “conscious”, “enlightened” or “awakened” enough, comparing their journey to anothers and ultimately placing themselves in the superior state.
Perhaps this is you? In which case would you like a hand removing the almighty stick of spiritual arrogance and judgment you have up your ass?
Isn’t it ironic that on a spiritual path that at it’s core teaches compassion and non-judgment for fellow human beings that somehow that truth disappears and people quickly then slip into another ego trap of judging and invalidating others?
The ego is a sneaky bugger when left unchecked (note: I don’t believe the ego is a bad thing that needs to be banished, it is just the part of you that believes its separate from the whole and actually forms your unique identity and personality, without it you couldn’t have a sense of self. ) and the more aware you become of your inner patterns and beliefs, the more subtle and elaborate the judgments will become to keep up the illusion of separation.
It takes presence and conscious awareness to really stay grounded and anchored in your heart’s space. Remember that the external world around you is merely a mirror for what is happening within. When anything or anyone externally triggers you it is an opportunity to go within and claim the gold in your shadow.
So I invite you the next time you feel triggered or frustrated by someone that is “less evolved” or challenging you that you bring yourself back into your heart space. Take a deep breath, ground into your body and allow the deeper layer of what is occurring to surface.
Experiment by asking yourself;
– What am I judging in this person that I haven’t owned or claimed within myself?
– Am I trying to fix, change, save or convince this person of my own beliefs? What if I could surrender the need to change them and just be in a state of observation and curiosity about this person?
– What if rather than resisting this person, I could love and accept them as they are? Perhaps I am learning deeper gifts right now of patience, tolerance and acceptance? Unconditional love.
So many problems and pain from our world stems from judgment and a deep distrust for life itself. Often people drain themselves trying to “fix”, “save” or “control” other people and then feel personally responsible for their growth. The only person in life you are truly responsible for it yourself. What if you could let go of taking responsibility for others and trust that the deep intelligence and creative energy that flows through life supports us all?
Ultimately underneath all the layers and illusions we are all exactly the same. It’s so important to not judge outward appearances or lifestyle choices. All is often not as it seems. It is not everyone’s path or choice to become a yogi, meditate for hours, or follow a “new-age spiritual life” to seek greater truth and love from life.
Often I have found the most beautiful, humble and consciously aware people aren’t even practicing “spirituality”, they just have a deep space of compassion in their heart grown from the experiences they have moved through in their life’s journey. They have grown through experiencing life itself. Ultimately isn’t that what its all about? Being. Loving. Experiencing, Connecting?