Do you know who you are… beyond who the world told you to be?
Do you feel empowered enough to allow your true self to be seen and shine in the world? Without needing anyone else’s approval for you to do so?
Do you find yourself getting triggered by that one person – perhaps a parent, ex or even current partner?
Cutting the ties does NOT mean you’ll necessarily cut this person out of your life, but something much better.
You’ll cut the invisible chains that bind you in an unhealthy way.
Which means, this is an invitation to take back your own power so you can relate with love, acceptance and deep freedom.
Is this you?
- You’ve been in a co-dependent relationship (romantic, friendship or professionally) and have lost yourself.
- You feel unworthy or un-loveable
- You struggle to nurture yourself and look after your physical body.
- You’re still waiting for someone/something to give you permission to live your life.
- You struggle to stand in your power, speak your truth and take responsibility for your life.
- Your parent’s behaviour is triggering you.
- You’d like to claim your own sense of self- free from the expectations and pressures of your family of origin.
- You’re struggling to move on from an ex-partner
- You’d love to attract a new partner (without bringing in old baggage)
- You’d like to re-set your current relationship so you can enjoy the present, not fixate on the past.
- Your adult child is leaving home and you’re experiencing the empty nest.
- You are 28 – 30 years old and going through your Saturn Return Transit and your ready to clear the karmic ties that bind you to your family of origin.
- You’ve been in an abusive relationship
You may even secretly feel like you don’t belong on this earth.
The Cutting of the Ties Ritual is based on a therapeutic process created by psychotherapist and counselor Phyllis Krystal. It includes shadow work, which is richly beneficial. This ritual can help those that wish to cut the ties that bind them subconsciously to anyone or anything that acts as an authority and exerts control over them.
Common signs that someone has power over you, include:
- Feeling drained after being in their company
- Feeling overly responsible for their happiness
- Obsessing over their impact on your life
- Feeling abandoned and rejected by them.
- Needing their validation and approval (even in subtle ways)
- Holding onto Resentment and/or Regret towards them.
- Blaming them for issues in your life.
- Feeling trapped in an unhealthy dynamic
- Feeling like you can’t cope without them
- Feeling frustrated or sad that a relationship has ended
We are all bound by invisible chains – things that bind us and block us and keep us from being who we truly are. These ties come from childhood – from family environment, culture, fears or reactions to events that took place years ago.
When two people have a close relationship with one another they invariably project part of themselves onto the other so that neither is a clear-cut and separate individual.
The Cutting of the Ties Ritual enables you to re-set and re-program this kind of bound or blocked relationship. It offers the gift of mutual freedom so you can relate from a place of compassion and a clear sense of self.
It supports you to unhook from feeling dependent on others for love, power and wisdom and supports you discover your own untapped inner resources and connection to Universal (unconditional!) Love.
Cutting The Ties from your parents is a beautiful initiation journey into becoming your TRUE self, free of the karmic ties that bind you to the past!
If you cut from your mum you’ll reset your relationship to the feminine force of ALL of life.
If you cut from your dad, you’ll reset your relationship to the masculine.
More relationships benefit than the one you choose to focus this ritual on.
“Since doing a cutting of the ties with Sara my relationship with my mother is better than ever, I am able to identify and take responsibility for my emotions and my decisions and to interact with her on a new and more open level.”
“The flow on effects since the Cutting of the Ties Ritual with Sara has been immense and life changing. The impact has been so positive and heart warming. I am able to TRUST in LOVE again. This singularly has been the profoundest of shifts, which was such a wondrous heart expanding moment for me. I feel lighter in all aspects of my life. I am able to let go with more ease and grace. My relationship with Self and Others are healthier – allowing TRUST in. I don’t feel held back in the past anymore. I now look forward with unbridled freedom.”
“The cutting of the ties ritual with Sara was an extremely powerful way to energetically disconnect from my ex after our break up. It brought up a lot of emotions and these were a necessary part of the release. Doing the ritual helped to focus my awareness on the reality of the separation on all levels and confirm for me my commitment to letting go. I highly recommend doing this work with Sara. She is such an understanding, strong, knowledgeable and capable guide through this release work.”
How does it work?
Cutting of the Ties contains two x 1:1 sessions that act like bookends to a complete two-week therapeutic process. You’ll receive a workbook and email support over the fortnight as you practice the ritual daily.
- 2 x 60 min 1:1 Sessions
- Cutting of the Ties Workbook
- 2 Weeks of Email Support
Results: You will have reprogrammed and reprinted the subconscious energy infused into this relationship. After the ritual process you will cease to connect to who you think this person is, and start to connect to who they truly are. Loving-kindness and compassion arise naturally.
- An ease of relating
- Deep sense of personal freedom
- No longer feeling drained in their company
- Less to zero reactivity
- Less obsessive thoughts about them
- Freedom from external validation
- A freshness of energy in the relationship
- Feeling detached from the other person’s emotional behavior
- An immediate positive change in their behavior (as if by magic)
- Greater confidence in Self as an independent being.
- Knowing how to parent yourself
- Deeper embodiment of UNIVERSAL love within self.
Investment: $300 : 2 sessions @ $150 AU (GST included)
This includes 2 x 60 minute sessions which can be facilitated either in-person at my healing studio in Kensington, Melbourne (Australia) or online anywhere worldwide via Skype.
For the optimum healing potency it is best that this ritual be done over a 2 – 3 week time frame.
Rescheduling & Cancellations: Once booked your appointment times are reserved exclusively for you.
24 hours notice is required to avoid a rescheduling fee (50% of consultation fee) or cancellation fee (100% of consultation fee)
What people say…
“The Cutting of the Ties ritual was – in a word – profound. The effects were immediate – I stopped getting triggered by my mum within days of completing the ritual and her behaviour seemed to change overnight. Our relationship has deepened in compassion and understanding. My husband is quite skeptical about this kind of work and he was blown away by the changes – I even overheard him recommending it to his mates! If you’re ready to step into a more mature relationship with your parent, I highly recommend it.”
“I wasn’t sure what to expect when I took part in the Cutting of the Ties Ritual but I knew I was strongly called to participate. I have a very close friendship with my mother but both of us are aware that our energies are deeply entangled in ways that stretch into past lifetimes. This deep interconnection serves us but sometimes it has made it difficult for us to live sovereign lives. During the completion ceremony, I experienced a deep healing of a past hurt and since doing the Cutting of the Ties Ritual, my relationship with my mother has blossomed into one with so much fresh air, space, respect and a love that honours each other’s wholeness. This is a beautiful, powerful, sacred offering and will transform you and those you are releasing your energy from in the most positive ways. I recommend it so highly and am deeply grateful to Sara for her kind, strong guidance and holding of space.”
How do I know which person to ‘cut the ties’ from? I’m not sure if it’s my partner or parent that’s the problem.
That makes sense. Our parents/primary caregivers in life give us our first imprint of the world. That relationship becomes the blueprint for how we relate to the world at large. For example, if you felt that your father was emotionally unavailable, then chances are you attract similar men in your life as an adult and may struggle with consciously connecting with your feelings and managing your own emotions. Maybe your mother struggled with self-love and receiving pleasure, so therefore you continue this pattern in your own life. It may be that you need to do this ritual for more than one relationship, but it will become clear on the ‘who’ in our first session of the process.
What if my parent or the person I want to do the cut from has died?
The ties still exist so the connection remains. The imprints still bind even after death until severed. It can be an important step of the healing journey to conduct this ritual and I have witnessed many times as deeply supportive for those who have lost a parent or loved one.
I don’t want to cut this person/parent literally out of my life. I love them and I have a great relationship with them now, why should I do a cut?
A cutting of the ties ritual is a gift of love to give a relationship. It provides a mutual gift of freedom so that both individuals can be their true selves — cleared of the projections. It’s especially useful when it comes to a parent/child relationship where there are certain co-dependent, ancestral belief patterns and stories that rule in a limiting way.
Do I have to tell the person I am doing the cut from them?
No, you don’t need to tell them. There’s no need for them to know. This is a ritual you do primarily for yourself, which will also positively benefit the other person without them needing to be told.
Will my parent/ex/sibling/friend know I am doing the cut from them?
Not consciously. However on a deeper level they will feel and experience a subtle or profound shift. Whatever you have been energetically projecting onto them with your thoughts (including obsession, fear, hatred, longing) creates psychic hooks and the cut will release all of these.
In a nutshell, here’s my general advice:
Do you want to create or call in something new to your life? Choose Creation Matrix.
Are you interested in healing, integration and understanding of self? Select Soul Medicine.
Do you feel you need support to move on from or claim power back around a specific relationship? Cutting Of the Ties is specifically designed for that.
I would recommend that you read through each of the full descriptions by clicking on the individual pages linked above. You will get more information to help you decide which 1:1 offering is best for you at this time.
More Positive Results from the Cutting Of The Ties Ritual…
“Cutting of the ties ritual was a turning point in my life. I experienced deep healing.
The pain, sadness, judgment and anger that I had been holding onto was released – and replaced by acceptance, forgiveness and love. I’m extremely grateful to Sara for guiding me through this powerful process.”
“For me, the *Cutting of the Ties* ritual was an act of pure love. I wanted to take back everything that I may have projected on to my sister and also give her back any power I may have inadvertently taken from her, so she and I could stand in our full power as sovereign beings that love one another deeply. It was a beautiful ritual which has strengthened and enriched our relationship in every way.”
“For me, the *Cutting of the Ties* ritual was about honouring and uncovering the true connection between my sister Anna and I. By doing the ritual I was able to give her back everything that I had unwittingly energetically taken from her and in turn receive back everything that I had given to her that belonged with me. I felt that we gained more clarity and truth in our relationship after the ritual. It also deepened and enriched our connection because we were no longer playing out an unhealthy dynamic of needing to be saved or needing to rescue one another. It has been the best thing for our relationship.”
The Cutting of the Ties ritual with Sara has been absolutely transforming. It has given me more freedom from controlling relationships & they don’t continue to control me or have control over my life. It has transformed fear and negativity into peace & acceptance & allowed for a more natural flow. It has taken the pressure off & allows me to be myself & not feel bad about my own personal power, or way of being. It has given me the ability to be free, whilst still maintaining a healthier relationship. This is an amazingly positive tool for any relationship!
“I worked with Sara, to cut ties with my mother, the purpose wasn’t to let go of my relationship with my mother, but to allow us both to grow in ways that would support us.
Through doing the cutting of the ties process, I was able to identify both the amazing positive aspects of my mother as well as those less helpful behaviours. It enable me to see that in judging and rejecting the different aspects of my mother i was also judging myself and not allowing myself to absorb and embrace the wonderful skills that she has modelled for me during my life.
Upon completing the cutting of the ties i was able to release the stories that I carried around about my mother, which gave me the opportunity to take responsibility for my life choices and to interact with her in a new way, instead of judging her actions and hearing her comments covered in a cloud of the past.
It allowed me to make non emotional decisions about which aspects I wished to integrate into my life and which I would choose to release.
In separating from the stories that were inherited, I was able to see more clearly the stories that I had chosen to create for myself. As such I was able to reignite my passion for moving forward and release the tensions holding me back.”